What is the value of a diamond?

Ufuoma E-Ashogbon:

We’re in the business of tranforming ordinary diamonds to living diamonds! A timely word for our generation by our Chief Executive Officer, Ufuoma E-Ashogbon.

Originally posted on ufuomaee:

I am no economist, nor accountant.  I can’t claim business experience.  However, as a social entrepreneur and thinker in my time, I dare to submit an opinion.

What’s in a diamond?  Everyone seems to want one.  A really big one, if possible.  They don’t want to eat it, they may not even want to wear it, but they must have it!  What is so valuable in a diamond?  Who determines the value?

I actually think the whole thing is a sham.  A diamond to me is just a piece of glass.  A rare and strong piece, but glass nonetheless.  I believe the necessities and luxuries diamonds can afford those who have them, according to market economics, are far more valuable than the ‘treasure’ itself.

A diamond isn’t worth anything until it is being used to sustain or bless a life.  The same as money.  If it’s hanging on your neck…

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Sex Talk With Kids

The issue of child sexual abuse is evident all over the world and daily becoming an increasing societal problem.  Our work, as contributors to social change, demands that we seek solutions to this problem.  In doing this, we sought the help of a renowned Child’s Rights Consultant with the UNICEF, Mr Taiwo Akinlami, who enlightened us on this topic through a twitter interview with our PRO, Njideka Raleke-Obiora.  These are excerpts from the chat.

Mr Akinlami who prefers to call it “Sexuality Talk”, says “it simply means helping primary and secondary caregivers and children understand their sexuality and defend same.  Sexuality simply refers to the physiological and psychological components of a gender according to their purpose”

Child sexual abuse is any sexual act with a child performed by an adult or an older child or mate.  It may also include any act or omission of the caregiver, which compromises the sexuality of the child and includes exposing children to music and movies with explicit or suggestive sexual contents.  It also includes making suggestive statements to children like an adult calling a child his/her wife/husband, sexual touching of any part of the body, clothed or unclothed, these includes everything from obscene exposure, to touching the genitals in a sexual way and rape.

On the need for sex talk, he answered that until we are educated about our sexuality, we do not understand it, not to talk of protecting same. The goal of education on this matter is to impart knowledge, skills and attitude necessary to protect children.  This child protection intelligence he said, asks one question: “what are the measures put in place to protect children from sexual abuse?”  He went on to add that till we can vouch that we have professional measures put in place to protect children, they are not protected

Answering our question on the importance of sex talk at home, Mr Akinlami says that parents have a responsibility to protect their children against Child Sexual Abuse and not leaving it to chance. This responsibility begins with talks/education, he reiterated. Involving children in their own protection from when they can talk and hear.  To do this, the parents need to educate themselves also to enable them educate and protect the children because a child who is not taught about his/her sexuality does not understand its value and d need to protect same.

He also revealed that parents still shy away from having this talk because of the environment we live, but advised that going by statistical increase of this menace, it is time to speak to speak to our children.  To do this, he suggested that parents should begin by demystifying the subject of sex and sexuality, making children comfortable and then help them to name their body parts in their actual names and their purposes. He advised to also the teach children about what are good touches and bad touches and how to react to them.

He made it clear that when parents and childcare givers make children comfortable, they will be pleasantly surprised at how open children can be and the questions they will ask, stating that the challenge is that many primary and secondary caregivers are ignorant of their own sexuality not to talk of what to teach.   In closing Mr Akinlami said that no matter how sound the sexuality education parents and guardians give to our children, the bulk of the responsibility of child protection is on us. Every single person that interacts with children or works with children.

We need to be conscious about the message we are sending children about their worth.  We as social care workers too and you that have the opportunity to read this, have a lot of work on our hands to do in protecting the lives of our children and we believe conducting this interview is a step towards reducing this wrong to the barest minimum.

What I want for Christmas

Christmas is usually a special time for Christians all over, especially the children.  So to understand what children really want for Christmas, our Public Relations Officer, Njideka, visited the children of the Ark of the Lord Missionary School, Ajah, on Friday.  From the cheerful answers they gave, we can rightly say that the kids just want to have fun this Christmas!

The children, who were excited to talk about anything Christmas, were asked to answer the question “What do you want for Christmas?”  “I want a puppy”, “I want a doll”, “I want a bicycle”, “a dress”, “a PSP”, “travel abroad”, “an Ipad”!  However, one thoughtful child gave an outstanding response, “I want a visit to share my gifts with the orphans”.  These were the various answers they heartily shared with Njay, who also advised them to add giving to their list of wants, because that is the true essence of Christmas.

Group shot!
Group shot!

Njay briefed them on what the Disadvantage to Advantage Initiative was about and enjoined them to always be thankful to God and their parents or guardians for being able to give them a good education as that is mostly what our #D2A! kids were in dire need of.  They were also given drinks and biscuits to set an example of giving for the reason of Christmas and some of our #1000Christmas flyers to give to their parents to encourage them to support.

Having heard what the children want for Christmas, we are sure that our plan for the Santa Drive is a step in the right direction. Every child wants to have a good time, and at least one good gift at Christmas.  So to truly bring the spirit of Christmas to #FLAKids, we have concluded plans on taking Santa to Ikota Slum and Dustbin Estate, Ajegunle come 24th and 26th of December.   We’re going in full gear with our DJ and cheerful team!  We already have packed goodies for the 10 families of the Disadvantage to Advantage Kids and 200 more children at the two locations.

Santa Drive

What is remaining is you and your beautiful gifts/donations and of course, your presence on both or any of the days to help share the sunshine of the Christmas season.  Do get in touch to lend a hand!  You can also donate to Fair Life Africa Foundation at GTBank, 0106643687.  Thanks!


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